Great piece as usual Anju. Reminds me of when I was a kid (I grew up in the 1960s), people mourned after a loss, then got on with their lives. Which really shouldn’t surprise us because that’s the way we’re built. Today, natural grieving and getting over things have given way to counselling, therapy and introspection, as if we were not built to ride out these natural cycles of life by ourselves.
Similarly, when it came to negative feelings, we used to have “Toughen up, suck it up and move on”. While this advice did not work for all people, as you point out, it sure worked for the vast majority.
Given the choice between “Toughen up, suck it up and move on” and “Sit with your feelings, go to a therapist, quit your job”, there’s no doubt in my mind which is the better one.
This is so well written Anju. I've been following a lot of content lately on YouTube about the mind and how it works and reading this has been so refreshing! It's so detailed and the fact that you mention the experiment on yourself and another hypothetical one, makes it very easy to see how the 90 second rule can be actually used. Plus the different kinds of therapies.
Really looking forward to a new article every week! 🌸
Great piece as usual Anju. Reminds me of when I was a kid (I grew up in the 1960s), people mourned after a loss, then got on with their lives. Which really shouldn’t surprise us because that’s the way we’re built. Today, natural grieving and getting over things have given way to counselling, therapy and introspection, as if we were not built to ride out these natural cycles of life by ourselves.
Similarly, when it came to negative feelings, we used to have “Toughen up, suck it up and move on”. While this advice did not work for all people, as you point out, it sure worked for the vast majority.
Given the choice between “Toughen up, suck it up and move on” and “Sit with your feelings, go to a therapist, quit your job”, there’s no doubt in my mind which is the better one.
This is so well written Anju. I've been following a lot of content lately on YouTube about the mind and how it works and reading this has been so refreshing! It's so detailed and the fact that you mention the experiment on yourself and another hypothetical one, makes it very easy to see how the 90 second rule can be actually used. Plus the different kinds of therapies.
Really looking forward to a new article every week! 🌸
Thank you! So glad to hear that this has been a helpful read :)